RESILIENCE
Life will offer you many opportunities to show you how resilient you innately are… if you let it.
Living life to the fullest comes with much risk.
When we put our heart and soul into something and we get rejected, it hurts. When we love and we lose, it hurts.
But it only hurts like it does because of all we’ve invested, and how much we care.
And there are no rules to manage life when we’re hurting… except to remember, we do recover.
We have all we need within us to ensure that.
But how do we see this for ourselves?
We need to keep showing up to life.
Show up in our pain, even when we don’t want to. Be brave when we are afraid.
The act of showing up and being brave is what connects us to our innate resilience.
Step by step each time we show up, we are shown the capacity of what we have within.
This showing up part is all we have to do - everything else will be taken care of by life.
In the last month, some of my children have been presented with real opportunities to see this in their own lives.
They’ve experienced profound loss and heartbreak through very different life experiences.
It’s not easy to watch as a parent, and I have had to hold myself back from jumping in to rescue them. I’ve wanted to soothe it for them, make it all better… because of the inner pain I’ve felt watching their hearts ache.
But I know that would be a mistake. At least I know it now.
All I would be teaching them is that pain in life is to be avoided and numbed. I would be taking away their opportunity to fully experience their own inner capacity for resilience and growth that these times inevitably offer up.
All I can do as someone who loves them as much as I do, is sit beside them as they work their way through it. To hold that space open for them to navigate it, no matter how it feels for me.
Many of my clients will have heard me say that I’ve learned in my life that most of the gifts I’ve received didn’t come wrapped in nice packaging. They came wrapped in shit.
And we either get to spend our whole life avoiding the shit and never truly see what we’re capable of, or we take it all fully.
Fully is the only option for me now.
Because I know that at the end of my life, if I’m lucky enough to be able to reflect on it, I will say that I loved as deeply as I could, and I continued to do so even during the darkness.
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