We all want to feel more love. We want others to act lovingly towards us, and treat us kindly, respectfully, and compassionately.
Yet, so many of us struggle to give ourselves these things.
The thought of someone living a whole life without truly feeling love for themselves makes my heart hurt.
This was me for most of my life, only because I didn’t understand how to give myself these things.
Perhaps through the sharing of my lessons, I can help you. Because the way we feel about ourselves is what we project onto the world. The more love we have for ourselves, the more love we can give to others.
It starts with you.
If you find it hard to feel love for yourself, know this.
It is most likely from a deep subconscious story handed down to you about your worth being tied in whether you are loveable or not.
How we perceive the information given to us by those closest to us and our culture when we’re young is sorted into stories, beliefs, and thought patterns that fill the mind, and we take them as truth.
And we innocently and largely subconsciously, take these truths with us in our decision make as we go along on our path of living. We dismiss anything that doesn’t align.
We see ‘evidence’ of this ‘truth’ everywhere because, in a sense, our minds are belief blind, and changing our beliefs is risky to our safety first mind.
But no matter how loud, strong, and long you’ve believed you’re unworthy, unlovable, and not ‘enough’, it is not who you are.
It’s never been who you are, and will never be who you are, because they’re just thoughts… and you are not your thinking!
So who are you then?
The one who is noticing the thoughts! And living underneath all the stories of your mind is YOU.
Your essence, which is love. Peace of mind. All you have been searching for.
I call this, your blue sky. This blue sky can never be lost, stolen, or destroyed. It is only temporarily covered by your mind's thought stories.
To access this, you need to know it is there, but you won’t intellectually be able to feel it unless you create the conditions to experience it. Experience comes only with action. Choosing to step away from all you ‘believe’ to be true about your lack of worth, lack of loveability, lack of anything, or simply just the ‘busyness’ of your mind (which when you take a look at it, you will find that it is largely negative), and step into actions that come from a place of love and kindness for yourself.
Choose to hold yourself with love, even if you don’t feel like it is true.
Then over time, these loving actions will become your default setting and life will feel more loving, peaceful, and calm.
“You wander from room to room searching for the diamond that is already around your neck.” Rumi.
Find it in yourself and watch all around you respond to that. Be the love that you want to feel, treat yourself in that way, and love is what you will get.
Tracey xx